Posted: 09/13/2008 at 3:41pm | IP Logged

Jess,

What God is most likely telling you is to die to that desire. I don't think it's a woman's place to find a husband, but it's up to the man to find a wife. (See Proverbs 18:21.)

My mother simply asked God to give her a husband and He did it. They stayed together until death did they part.

I found through experience that as long as I looked for and longed for a husband, it made the situation worse. Guys tend to shy away from (or even run from) girls who want to marry. I'm not sure why that is, but believe me, I've been around this block several times and for years.

I'm really fulfilled (finally) in the work I'm doing for the Lord. As I'm doing what He has called me to do, it's up to Him to give me my heart's desires. (See Psalm 37:4.)

Ann

Posted: 09/13/2008 at 4:42pm | IP Logged

Bless you sis. After praying, then we just need to busy about Kingdom business, praying, studying our Bibles, doing whatever He shows us to do. Ask Him to make you ready for marriage and for Him to also make the man ready for it.

Sometimes what is needed is inner healing so that a person does not bring the baggage from their past into the new relationship.

Oh, I like that "suddenly" thing. It's been prophesied that this is how it will happen in my life. Yeah, we just have to trust God and not do what others do in order to try and make it happen (singles' dating sites, etc.).

Love,

Ann

Posted: 09/14/2008 at 9:40pm | IP Logged

I know how you feel.  I have been praying for a husband too.  I don't see anything wrong with joining a singles group or meeting new friends.  There is nothing wrong with having friends even from the opposite sex.  We have to do our part and then God will do His part.  For example I am now laid off.  I need a job.  I could sit at home and pray for a job but what I need to do is go out there and look for a job. If I will do my part then God will give me a job.  I can pray for guidance that God will help me find a job.

Don't sit at home praying for a husband.  Join a singles group there is nothing wrong with that.  Meet singles and then pray that one of the guys will asked you out.

Posted: 09/15/2008 at 7:27pm | IP Logged

I understand, Jess, that it can be rather confusing and frustrating. I've been saved for nearly 29 years now and crying out to God for a husband.

What we have to remember is that we're all different. How He leads you might not be the same in how He leads me or how he led Tina or others.

If you don't feel that you should go to a singles' group, then don't go. Since God told you to not do online dating, then don't do it. Since you believe it's the man who is to find the wife (like I also believe) then just let God do it. He is able to bring you and the man together at just the right time for it to happen.

We have to trust Him, my sister. God is totally trustworthy. My favorite verse of all is Proverbs 3:5 which says to trust in Him with our whole hearts and not lean on our own understanding. We don't need to try and figure it out. Just pray and believe and do whatever He shows us to do. Then, we simply let God be God and do what He does best. He answers prayer.

Love,

Ann

Posted: 09/15/2008 at 8:36pm | IP Logged

Today I was really surprised.  There is an older gentle man that really likes me.  And he went to Washington state.  He was going for about three weeks.  I got to thinking today that since he is going there isn't any men out there that are interested in me.  And I haven't heard from him in three weeks.  I may not even hear from him again.

Tonight there was a knock on the door and here it was Jim.  At first I thought it could be his twin brother coming to bring me bad news but it was Jim.  Jim take me out to dinner tonight.  He really does love me because he came back to Pa to live.  I am not sure what to think because he has stronger feelings for me then I do of him. I do enjoy the love and attention he gives me. 

Please pray for God's will in this.

Posted: 09/16/2008 at 2:39am | IP Logged

Hi Jess,

I am coming to believe that the most important thing that God wants for us, is to learn to trust Him in everything. 

This is a very testing time for you, but your trust will grow stronger through it.  Keep going, keep trusting, keep asking Him to help, keep listening to Him and keep obeying what He says.  This is the most treasured relationship you can ever have, nurture it.

With love,

Mandy

Posted: 09/16/2008 at 7:06am | IP Logged

1) to find, attain to

a) (Qal)

1) to find

a) to find, secure, acquire, get (thing sought)

b) to find (what is lost)

c) to meet, encounter

d) to find (a condition)

e) to learn, devise

2) to find out

a) to find out

b) to detect

c) to guess

3) to come upon, light upon

a) to happen upon, meet, fall in with

b) to hit

c) to befall

b) (Niphal)

1) to be found

a) to be encountered, be lighted upon, be discovered

b) to appear, be recognised

c) to be discovered, be detected

d) to be gained, be secured

2) to be, be found

a) to be found in

b) to be in the possession of

c) to be found in (a place), happen to be

d) to be left (after war)

e) to be present

f) to prove to be

g) to be found sufficient, be enough

c) (Hiphil)

1) to cause to find, attain

2) to cause to light upon, come upon, come

3) to cause to encounter

4) to present (offering)

Posted: 09/16/2008 at 7:30am | IP Logged

Hi Larry,

What you've suggested is certainly a hot potato!

I think it would be a good discussion for us to open up.  Maybe it needs to be started on a new thread though so as not to distract from Jess's question.

Love Mandy

Posted: 09/16/2008 at 7:54am | IP Logged

Jess,

I'm curious about how old you are (since you mentioned difficult time to have a baby). Based on those words, you're most likely of child-bearing ago, which I am not.

Ann

Posted: 09/16/2008 at 3:42pm | IP Logged

Yes, Jess, you are still young. Who knows but that the Lord could bring the right man to you right where you are (at school)...lol.

I just went to an inner healing session. Had 3 ladies minister to me for about 1 1/2 hours. It was great. I'd gone for a physical infirmity. They didn't address that at all. Instead, we got at the root issue which had stemmed from childhood.

The Lord showed me that it was this very issue that had made me feel anxious. Now it's gone!! PTL for that!!

There may be something like that in you as well. Something that happened when you were younger that made you feel anxious. I pray that if it is there, the Lord will show it to you and remove it by its roots.

Love,

Ann

Posted: 09/16/2008 at 4:16pm | IP Logged

Yes, there is something, that I think caused my problems, and the Lord is currently working on healing me  I was so depressed this morning, and then I was cleaning the counter in the bathroom and crying out to Him, and then I suddenly felt God's presence, and He led me to stop and go soaking, and after, I was sooo happy and energetic!  GOD IS AWSOME!!! If I make sure to spend time with Him before I go out, I don't have anxiety in public anymore  And I can smile at people at be nice to them! Hehe! God is SO AWSOME! I think I said that already, but He is!!!!!!

Posted: 09/17/2008 at 4:14pm | IP Logged

Amen Alicia to waiting on the Lord. We certainly would not want to birth an Ishmael. God's will is perfect and so is His timing. Also, we need to be careful what we pray for because we just might get it.

Have you heard the story of the missionary who was being chased by a lion. He prayed, "O God. I pray that the lion be a Christian lion." The lion stops in its tracks, gets down on its knees and prays, "Thank You Lord for this food I'm about to eat."

I don't know about you, but I know that I've prayed some things I wished I hadn't prayed (and then got what I asked for). Instead, we just want to pray for God's will to be done in every situation, and especially in such important things as a life-long mate.

Ann

Posted: 09/17/2008 at 7:34pm | IP Logged

Last night I got a phone call from a guy who I only hear from every three months.  He calls me when he is lonely hoping that I will give him sex.  I told him no that sex is for the married. This guy used to go to a church that I used to go too.

Even Christian men can have perverted thoughts.

Posted: 09/17/2008 at 8:01pm | IP Logged

Pamela,

That's why it's dangerous to pray that a man from a singles' group ask you out. You don't know where they're at. Sounds like this man who called you is in need of deliverance.

Ann

Posted: 09/18/2008 at 1:32pm | IP Logged

Pamela,

It might have been on another thread where you suggested praying that someone asks you out as you went to a singles' group. That's what I was referring to. That's why I suggested it wasn't a good idea to do that.

Ann