Posted: 01/19/2009 at 2:27am | IP Logged

Pamela, I believe I have something that might help with the first part of your questionning. 

In Old Testament times women were totally dependant on men for their livelihoods.  Men could pick and choose, and were doing so.  If they became fed up with their wives, they sent them away and got another one.  If we look at what Jesus said about divorce in Matthew 19, he said that divorce was permitted because men's hearts were hard.  It had been introduced in order to give some form of protection to the women.  If the man had to write a certificate of divorce it meant he had to think twice before sending his wife away.  Women just didn't send their husbands away in those days.  Their marriage provided their livelihood and security, however bad it was.

A bit of advice here is to always look at what Jesus had to say on a subject.  Remember, he reinterpreted many Old Testament laws for his listeners in order to give God's actual intended meaning.

Another thing is to always pray when someone tells you something like they have above.  Ask Him to show you if it's true or not, and ask for wisdom and for revelation of the truth.

Love Mandy

Posted: 01/19/2009 at 7:09am | IP Logged

Hey Pam,

I pose another way of looking at your dilemma:

What is God's heart in this matter?  What is His redemptive plan for your mess?  Was it a sin to divorce him?  I don't know, but I do know that everything is redeemable.

You have labelled your ex as being a child molester.  I propose that God sees him another way, as one of his little ones who has struggled with and succumbed to appalling evil, but is not beyond redemption.  God's plan is to heal his "sickness" and restore him.

You ask if you're allowed to remarry.  I urge you to seek His heart for yourself in this and not others dogmatic opinions as this may only lead to more confusion.  It's by reacting to other people's opinions that you have ended up in the position you're in.  You really need to learn to hear God's voice for yourself and then walk in it.  It's only then that you will have the peace you need in order to be able to move forward in complete assurance of being in His will.  Ask Him what He means in the verses that He leads you to.  Ask Him what He wants you to understand from it.

Love Mandy

Posted: 01/20/2009 at 1:49am | IP Logged

Listening to a friend's wisdom yesterday I offer the following advice.

It's a case of sitting yourself down and quieting your soul so you can hear clearly what your loving Father is saying to you.  This state of "quietness" and "stillness" of mind can take a little time to achieve if you are used to much activity, but be assured it is achievable. 

Remember, God has a plan and you are part of it.  It's about finding and performing our part in His plan.  It's all about Him and His plan for mankind.  We are His helpers.

Be blessed my sister,

Love Mandy